"Believe you can and you’re halfway there." Theodore Roosevelt
We, as woman, often have a specific idea of how we want to show up the in the world. Sometimes, this can derailed by the way we project ourselves and with built-in habits that we haven't figured out how to change, yet.
This may show up in daily life as jumping around from topic to topic, your mind racing constantly, struggling with even basic decision making, brain fog, freezing up in stressful situations, taking short and shallow breaths, worrying about how a conversation may go and taking it to its worst possible end, endlessly ruminating on how things could have gone better in a conversation.
If you are reading this, you probably have an inner desire to feel more aligned with your work, a calling to show up differently, and the aspiration to move forward differently than you have been.
Which means, we are very similar, you and I. Eight years ago, when I was finding my voice and learning that I could self-talk myself right into a negative situation and couldn't figure out how to get out of it.
Little sayings like "I just wanted to say" or " I was thinking" or adding "just my thoughts" at the end of the sentence.
I didn't have the confidence to say what I wanted to say and believe that it was important enough for other to take notice.
I clearly remember how much I struggled with my self identity and worth in a new job position and how hard it was for me to speak up and show up. It was so much easier to stay small and agree or disagree with what the more important people were saying.
The truth is: every single one of is important and what we have to say matters.
3 skills that every woman needs:
1. Getting Grounded in Your Body
First, we need to identify where in the body our nerves, anxiety, stress is stemming from. Taking a deep breath and just beginning to notice where we may feel knots, restrictions or an inability to take the breath.
2. Activating Your Deep Inner Calm
Set an intention before you speak for how you want to show up and want to be seen. This has been my go-to for multiple public speaking engagements, and every time I set my intention for how I want things to go, I am setting up the path to getting there. Imagine standing behind a curtain, taking a deep breath, and silently setting an intention for the crowd to understand the message you are getting across and for the right words to help you get it across. Now, imagine running to stage, almost being late, checking your phone, taking deep frantic breaths and hoping your message gets across. Who would you rather hear from?
3. Practice Self Compassion
This is where many women struggle. If we had a friend that spoke to us the way we speak to ourselves, we would never allow it. Yet, we speak to ourselves in a way that makes us feel smaller than small. Allow yourself to practice self compassion for yourself. It could be saying that "while things didn't go the way I intended, I learned some valuable lessons for next time". Give yourself grace just as you would for your best friend.
Finding your confidence and your unshakeable core of resilience take time, effort and consistent practice.
Are you wondering HOW to begin the practices to build your resilience?
Stay on the lookout for an email (sign up for the newsletter, if you are reading this on the blog) from me later this week, with an exclusive invitation.
With gratitude,
Amisha
